① Start here (your parent's state and...
② Help needed (split into daily, week...
③ Family meeting rules
⑤ Contacts and what to ask (the non-f...
⑥ Sorting the help (look at who to as...
Heavy and hard to hand over
Heavy and easy to hand over
Light and hard to hand over
Light and easy to hand over
⑦ Family does it
⑧ Ask (professionals, neighbors)
⑨ Pay for a service
⑩ Share by person (now → after review)
⑪ Duty schedule and contact frequency...
Parent Care Famil...
How to use (4 pag...
What family takes...
Rules, duties, ow...
Burdens and worries
Who to ask, insights
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Parent's current state e.g. Mother, 82, lives alone. Her legs are weak, and shopping and hospital visits are getting hard Their wishes e.g. Wants to stay in her own home as long as possible. Does not want to burden the children too much What this meeting should decide e.g. Who goes with her to the monthly hospital visit (next meeting: __/__) Daily
Weekly
Monthly
Meals, shopping
e.g. Prepare lunch and dinner e.g. One big weekly shop e.g. Restock daily items Hospital, meds
e.g. Check she took her pills e.g. Count the pills left e.g. Go with her to the monthly hospital visit Money, papers
e.g. Look through the mail e.g. Help with cash withdrawals e.g. Check utility bills and papers Watching over, co...
e.g. Morning and evening calls to hear her voice e.g. Visit in person once a week e.g. Siblings share how she is Home chores
e.g. Take out the trash e.g. Laundry and cleaning e.g. Garden and house upkeep Ground rules No blaming, no comparing. It is fine to say you cannot or that it is hard. Write what you decide on the board and review it next meeting What we do not decide here Do not decide medical treatment or care-system questions on the board. Ask the care manager or the family doctor ④ Support chart (...
Parent (e.g. Mother, 82) Eldest daughter (lives n ear) e.g. Does shopping, hospital v isits, and trash almost alone Youngest daughter (lives far) e.g. Only calls now and then. Can phone in the evening Family doctor e.g. Monthly hospital visit. W ho to ask about health Neighbors, friends e.g. A morning hello, help wit h the trash Eldest son (lives far) e.g. Only calls now and then. Can help with money and papers Care manager A professional who helps plan care. If none yet, ask the lo… Care services e.g. Meal delivery, a day care center Contact, how to r...
What to ask
Family contact pe...
Care manager
e.g. Not decided. Note call hours once chosen e.g. Care planning and service advice e.g. Eldest daughter Family doctor
e.g. Call the hospital reception e.g. Advice on health and medicine e.g. Eldest daughter (when she goes along) Meal delivery
e.g. Find where to apply e.g. Have weekday dinners delivered e.g. Eldest son Local office
e.g. Call the care consultation desk e.g. Advice while the care manager is undecided e.g. Youngest daughter Neighbors, friends
e.g. The neighbor next door, ____ e.g. A morning hello e.g. Eldest daughter 3/4
Fix the imbalance
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4/4
Set duties and co...
縦軸: Weight of bur...
Share it in the family. Do not leave it on one person. e.g. Take turns going to the monthly ho spital visit First think about asking someone or paying for a service. e.g. Have daily meals delivered Family does it. Set the owner and frequency. e.g. Watching over by phone morning and evening Pass it to someone you can ask. e.g. Ask a neighbor to take out the trash e.g. Hospital visits (eldest daughter and son take turns) e.g. A call every evening (youngest daughter) e.g. Checking money and papers (eldest son) Choose from the hard-to-hand-over side of ⑥ e.g. Ask the care manager about care planning e.g. Ask the neighbor, ____, for a morning hello e.g. Ask the family doctor about medicine Pick who to ask from the table in ⑤ e.g. Have weekday dinners delivered e.g. Have the house cleaned once a month Do not set amounts, only write candidates Before you sign up, talk to the contact in ⑤ Eldest daughter
Eldest son
Youngest daughter
Services, profess...
Now
e.g. Almost all shopping, hospital visits, and trash e.g. Calls now and then e.g. Calls now and then e.g. None After review
e.g. Takes turns on hospital visits once a month e.g. Money and papers, takes turns on hosp ital visits e.g. A call every evening e.g. Weekday dinner delivery Owner
Frequency
How to stay in touch
Backup person
Hospital visits
e.g. Eldest daughter and son take turns e.g. Once a month e.g. Confirm in the family chat the week b efore e.g. Youngest daughter Phone check-in
e.g. Youngest daughter e.g. Every evening at 8 p.m. e.g. Post a line in the chat if something worries you e.g. Eldest daughter Money and papers
e.g. Eldest son e.g. Once a month e.g. Write the day you checked in the chat e.g. Eldest daughter Family meeting
e.g. Everyone e.g. Once a month, 30 minutes online e.g. Open this board and talk e.g. Take turns leading ⑫ Tasks by person...
To do before the next fa mily meeting Eldest daughter e.g. Find where to apply for m eal delivery (due __/__) Youngest daughter e.g. Start the evening calls a nd note how she is (due __/__) Eldest son e.g. List the monthly payments (due __/__) Everyone e.g. Write three questions for the care manager (due __/__) ⑬ Roadmap (Now / ...
Now Do now e.g. Post the duty schedule from ⑪ in the family chat e.g. Try meal delivery for one week Next Do next e.g. Review the shares in ⑩ at the family meeting in a month e.g. Check whether taking turns on hospital visits can contin ue Later Someday e.g. Check in ⑤ who to ask when your parent's state changes e.g. If one person's load grows, go back to ⑥ and sort again → 2/4
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Fix the imbalance
→ 4/4
Set duties and co...
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